It's great to have a choice over how you feel and you can start this by looking at how you can use language in a very clever way with the use of the new verb 'dû'. Phil has created a website explaining how you can apply this clever little word to start providing you with new options in your life: http://duing.org/Home.html
On behalf of the Lightning Process Head Office team, we would like to wish everyone a very Happy and Healthy New Year.
Phil, Claire and Helen
Friday, 4 January 2013
Thursday, 20 December 2012
Phil's Christmas tips!
Use this advice and dû a very Happy Christmas!
Festive stress
For most people Christmas stresses fall into one of two groups:
Other people
Overwhelmed
Other people
The stress around this can be enormous at Christmas time. One of the easiest things to deal with differently is those people who you find can easily upset or annoy you.
If someone is difficult to deal with (it’s not always the mother-in-law!) try these tips:
1) Stay calm. Take a deep breath in and remind yourself of something deeply relaxing - a beach holiday, a walk in the forest etc. The chances are they don’t really mean to upset you; so let it go. If they do mean to be mean, then they’re probably not having a great Christmas, so you can just feel sorry for them, and remember: is their opinion that important?
2) Funny fish head: Imagine every time they say something that usually upsets you, you imagine they have a large fish sitting on their head, and it’s just flapping around as they talk. Notice how that changes how seriously you take what they say.
Overwhelmed
This can take many forms, worrying about catering, shopping, present buying, Christmas cards, entertaining and so on. Often these take over so much that there's no fun to be had, no time to relax or to enjoy your friends and family. This can of course then lead to resentful arguments about how nobody helped.
There are some simple solutions:
1) Ask. If you want help ask for it. Now, it won’t always be given but so often people don’t even ask - expecting it will ‘be obvious’ to everyone that they should lend a hand. Make it easier this year by requesting some help.
2) Bite size pieces: If you yourself saying phrases like “there's TOO/SO much to do” then pause for a moment and do what the expert planners do. Ask "what’s the first tiny step?"
Planning the whole five course banquet, presents, and housekeeping for twelve people is likely to make your head spin, but discovering the first tiny step is ‘creating a good shopping list’ makes you feel you are working on the bigger project and that it is actually possible.
Above all realise that worrying about things rarely helps to make things better, so make sure you make the right things important this year, focus on having fun, kicking off your shoes and dancing with life this Christmas!
Phil Parker
Festive stress
For most people Christmas stresses fall into one of two groups:
Other people
Overwhelmed
Other people
The stress around this can be enormous at Christmas time. One of the easiest things to deal with differently is those people who you find can easily upset or annoy you.
If someone is difficult to deal with (it’s not always the mother-in-law!) try these tips:
1) Stay calm. Take a deep breath in and remind yourself of something deeply relaxing - a beach holiday, a walk in the forest etc. The chances are they don’t really mean to upset you; so let it go. If they do mean to be mean, then they’re probably not having a great Christmas, so you can just feel sorry for them, and remember: is their opinion that important?
2) Funny fish head: Imagine every time they say something that usually upsets you, you imagine they have a large fish sitting on their head, and it’s just flapping around as they talk. Notice how that changes how seriously you take what they say.
Overwhelmed
This can take many forms, worrying about catering, shopping, present buying, Christmas cards, entertaining and so on. Often these take over so much that there's no fun to be had, no time to relax or to enjoy your friends and family. This can of course then lead to resentful arguments about how nobody helped.
There are some simple solutions:
1) Ask. If you want help ask for it. Now, it won’t always be given but so often people don’t even ask - expecting it will ‘be obvious’ to everyone that they should lend a hand. Make it easier this year by requesting some help.
2) Bite size pieces: If you yourself saying phrases like “there's TOO/SO much to do” then pause for a moment and do what the expert planners do. Ask "what’s the first tiny step?"
Planning the whole five course banquet, presents, and housekeeping for twelve people is likely to make your head spin, but discovering the first tiny step is ‘creating a good shopping list’ makes you feel you are working on the bigger project and that it is actually possible.
Above all realise that worrying about things rarely helps to make things better, so make sure you make the right things important this year, focus on having fun, kicking off your shoes and dancing with life this Christmas!
Phil Parker
Friday, 14 December 2012
Choose Calm Today
Paul Wilson in his “Calm for Life” book says:
“When it comes to being calm, and feeling good about your work, your relationships and your life in general, you have choices. It may be difficult to accept this while you feel trapped in any particular work or health issue, but these choices do exist. It’s not always easy to see this, but you have the power to be happy or unhappy, to be tense or relaxed, to be contented or depressed, to be rich or poor, to be well.”
We believe you are more influential in your life and in your health here at LP Head Office and we are here to show you how to do it.
Why choose Calm?
Because from a state of calm and relaxation solutions and clarity can be found. From these states of mind positive outcomes are soon to follow! Taking time to relax is the key to your health, happiness and productivity.
Here is a quick way of choosing calm instead of stress right now:
Do you struggle with stress on a daily basis? You want to feel calm and relaxed, but you just don't know how to do it or make it last? We can help. Contact us here: http://www.lightningprocess.com/Contact-Us/
Claire Brooker
“When it comes to being calm, and feeling good about your work, your relationships and your life in general, you have choices. It may be difficult to accept this while you feel trapped in any particular work or health issue, but these choices do exist. It’s not always easy to see this, but you have the power to be happy or unhappy, to be tense or relaxed, to be contented or depressed, to be rich or poor, to be well.”
We believe you are more influential in your life and in your health here at LP Head Office and we are here to show you how to do it.
Why choose Calm?
Because from a state of calm and relaxation solutions and clarity can be found. From these states of mind positive outcomes are soon to follow! Taking time to relax is the key to your health, happiness and productivity.
Here is a quick way of choosing calm instead of stress right now:
- Stop what your doing
- Become aware of heart rate, breathing rate, fast movements
- Calm everything down by slowing down your movements and your breathing
- Relax your muscles
- Focus on something in the present moment; what do you see or hear? What’s the temperature like?
- Think about a person, place or memory that reminds you of calm
- Then go about your task feeling refreshed and ready
Do you struggle with stress on a daily basis? You want to feel calm and relaxed, but you just don't know how to do it or make it last? We can help. Contact us here: http://www.lightningprocess.com/Contact-Us/
Claire Brooker
Tuesday, 20 November 2012
Lightning Process Team Talk
We are holding a free, informal talk at our Head Office in London on the Lightning Process tomorrow (21st November) at 5.30pm. If you would like to come along and find out more about the Lightning Process, how this approach could help you and to meet the team, contact us on: 020 7374 0233 or email: info@philparker.org to book your place.
Helen Harding
Helen Harding
Tuesday, 16 October 2012
Science Demonstrates Mind, Body Connection
Amy Cuddy recently shared her research at a TED talk on body language and how we can not only change peoples perceptions of us but also the changes we can make to our own chemistry, directly effecting our feelings - http://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are.html
This amazing research will be familiar to all the Lightning Process graduates who have grown to understand the importance of posture during their training. Fascinating viewing!
Helen Harding
This amazing research will be familiar to all the Lightning Process graduates who have grown to understand the importance of posture during their training. Fascinating viewing!
Helen Harding
Saturday, 29 September 2012
Lightning Process research from Harvard
Lightning Process research
Last week saw the publication of a Harvard and King's College, London study into the Lightning Process for CFSME.
Experiences of young people who have undergone the Lightning Process to treat chronic fatigue syndrome/myalgic encephalomyelitis – a qualitative study
Silje Endresen Reme, Nicola Archer,Trudie Chalder
British Journal of Health Psychology
http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.2044-8287.2012.02093.x/abstract
It's groundbreaking as it is the very first research ever published in a peer-reviewed journal about the Lightning Process.
Results
Of the participants 'seven reported that they were very satisfied with the treatment and that they were either much or very much better' and 'two participants reported being dissatisfied with the treatment and did not experience any improvement in their CFS'
Fine details
Young people between 14 and 26 were recruited from an advert displayed on the AYME website (this is not normally a good place to find successful Lightning Process graduates, who tend to move on from being involved in ME related associations once they are well, so we are particularly pleased with the results) in 2007.
The research team talked to 9 young people and three parents of those under 18.
Last week saw the publication of a Harvard and King's College, London study into the Lightning Process for CFSME.
Experiences of young people who have undergone the Lightning Process to treat chronic fatigue syndrome/myalgic encephalomyelitis – a qualitative study
Silje Endresen Reme, Nicola Archer,Trudie ChalderBritish Journal of Health Psychology
http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.2044-8287.2012.02093.x/abstract
It's groundbreaking as it is the very first research ever published in a peer-reviewed journal about the Lightning Process.
Results
Of the participants 'seven reported that they were very satisfied with the treatment and that they were either much or very much better' and 'two participants reported being dissatisfied with the treatment and did not experience any improvement in their CFS'
Fine details
Young people between 14 and 26 were recruited from an advert displayed on the AYME website (this is not normally a good place to find successful Lightning Process graduates, who tend to move on from being involved in ME related associations once they are well, so we are particularly pleased with the results) in 2007.
The research team talked to 9 young people and three parents of those under 18.
Thursday, 27 September 2012
New Lightning Process Book
This week sees the launch of the latest edition of Phil's book - An Introduction to the Lightning Process. Check out an interview with Phil and the new book here: http://www.lightningprocess.com/LP-book/
Helen Harding
Helen Harding
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